When I learned about the death of a former neighbor, I knew I would go to the funeral even though I didn’t know her well. Gary had a commitment, so I went by myself.
That morning, as I drove to the funeral, I thought of all the things I had to do since we were having company for dinner, but whenever I vacillate, I remember I never regret if I “just show up.’” And again, that was the case. I was glad I went. Not only did her husband remember me and ask about our family, but I felt peaceful sitting in the beautiful church, filled with bountiful and amazing sprays and bouquets of flowers, waiting to honor Margaret’s life and learn more about who she was.
Margaret (84) and her husband (in his 90’s) moved into our neighborhood over twenty years ago, and then moved out several years later to other places. We would stop and chat whenever we would see them out and about after they moved away. Margaret would always remind us of the time when Gary and I and our two teenage boys brought homemade, chocolate chip cookies to welcome them to their new home in the neighborhood. She would repeat that story each time we met. She enjoyed it so.
At the funeral, I learned that she, too, would give her specialty cookies, snickerdoodles, to many different folks over the years. Although I brought chocolate cookies that day, the cookies I enjoy most is my mother’s ginger cookies.
I wonder if people bring home made goodies to welcome newcomers? I admit I haven’t for a while now. Here are couple of new ideas I’ve heard of…
A couple moved into a neighborhood and made cookies to bring to their neighbors and introduce themselves, instead of waiting for the neighbors to come to them.
When our son and daughter-in-love moved into their new house, they hosted an open house and invited the neighbors over so they could meet them. It was a hit.
It’s a gift to be remembered, however it’s done.
We got new neighbors recently and didn’t have the opportunity to meet them during the busy holidays. This was a good reminder to me to bring them something to welcome them – maybe I’ll make some of those ginger cookies today!
I hope you do make some cookies to bring to your new neighbors. 😉
Valerie, thank you for sharing these beautiful stories of love, welcome and kindness. Also, I’m sorry for the loss of your friend Margaret, but thankful for the sweet memories you hold and the peace you felt in attending her funeral.
My mom’s favorite cookies were gingersnaps, too. I don’t recall her making them. But I made them for her every Christmas for many many years.
Thank you Audrey.
I remembered your mom’s favorite cookies were gingersnaps!
Valerie, I am sure the cookies you took to your former neighbors were so welcomed. I love whenever people reach out in kindness. And, as your neighbor showed you, small kindnesses are seldom forgotten. I
am glad you were able to attend her funeral and find comfort in the experience.
Good reminder Sheri…kindnesses are seldom forgotten.
Thanks.